Restoring relationships of any complexity
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Why do you need to get your ex back?
Savva Smith
Entrepreneur, Coach
Entrepreneur, Coach
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The benefits of reuniting with the person who rejected you and left you
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Most people who get their ex back enjoy the following benefits right away. They get to:
Experience the excitement of being constantly on edge and wondering if their relationship will last.
Relive all the fights and arguments they had before.
Feel that insatiable craving for attention and validation again.
Experience the joy of being in a toxic and unhealthy relationship
Enjoy the satisfaction of being with someone who doesn't appreciate or respect you.
And they never have to worry about being happy and fulfilled on their own.
Yes, it is usually so bad. But can you avoid this fate? Of course. Let me explain.
Why do 90% of people who get their exes back end up being left behind again
Most people who try to get their exes back end up being left behind again. This is because they don't approach the situation from a position of strength, and they don't take the time to understand the underlying reasons for the breakup or divorce.
Instead, they act out of desperation and fear, and they try to win their ex back by any means necessary. They might try to make their ex jealous by posting pictures with other people, or they might try to win them over with grand gestures like flowers and gifts. They might even try to guilt their ex into giving them another chance by playing the victim and blaming their ex for all the problems in the relationship.
But this approach rarely works, and it usually just ends up pushing their ex even further away. This is because their ex can sense their desperation and insecurity, and they don't want to be with someone who is weak and needy.
Instead, they act out of desperation and fear, and they try to win their ex back by any means necessary. They might try to make their ex jealous by posting pictures with other people, or they might try to win them over with grand gestures like flowers and gifts. They might even try to guilt their ex into giving them another chance by playing the victim and blaming their ex for all the problems in the relationship.
But this approach rarely works, and it usually just ends up pushing their ex even further away. This is because their ex can sense their desperation and insecurity, and they don't want to be with someone who is weak and needy.
The top reason to consider getting back together with your ex
When my ex left me 7 years ago, the advice I received from everyone was to "move on".
The problem with breakups is that our biology makes it physically impossible for us to tolerate the idea of our ex being with someone else. The thought of this causes us actual physical pain, like an amputation. But unfortunately, most "consultants" out there don't understand this. They focus on treating the mental pain of a breakup, but they don't realize that the pain is actually physical. The hormonal connections we have with our exes are destroyed during a breakup, and it feels like we're losing a part of ourselves. It's a brutal and painful process. So, if it's too painful for you, you can consider getting your ex back - just to feel better. Then, you can decide if you want to continue this particular relationship.
Also, be sure to take a look at our time-tested solution to post-breakup pain: a two-step breakup "painkiller":
The problem with breakups is that our biology makes it physically impossible for us to tolerate the idea of our ex being with someone else. The thought of this causes us actual physical pain, like an amputation. But unfortunately, most "consultants" out there don't understand this. They focus on treating the mental pain of a breakup, but they don't realize that the pain is actually physical. The hormonal connections we have with our exes are destroyed during a breakup, and it feels like we're losing a part of ourselves. It's a brutal and painful process. So, if it's too painful for you, you can consider getting your ex back - just to feel better. Then, you can decide if you want to continue this particular relationship.
Also, be sure to take a look at our time-tested solution to post-breakup pain: a two-step breakup "painkiller":
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Key Points
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The only sensible way to get your ex back is to to restore the power balance - via the no contact or the ignoring strategy
When your ex tries to come back to you, you can either reject - or accept them, on your terms and conditions.
You can ease the post-breakup pain by getting them back. After the reunion, you can decide whether to end the relationship permanently.
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